I am just reading a fascinating book by Michael A. Singer “The Untethered Soul”. He goes much into why we get stuck in pain by the things that hurt us. Here is a quote that I would like to share:

“If life does something that causes a disturbance inside of you, instead of pulling away, let it pass through you like the wind. After all, things happen every day that cause inner disturbance… If you want to be free, you have to learn to stop fighting those human feelings. When you feel pain simply view it as energy.

This goes much in line with the yin-yang philosophy which teaches us to accept that we live in a world of polarity. There will always be good and there will always be bad. There will always be moments of happiness and moments of sadness.

In practising Taiji we learn to stay grounded and aligned by never confronting the force that comes at us with the same energy. If you resist you will lose your balance. If you soften your body if a hard force comes at you, you will win the battle.

Singer writes that every time you relax and release a pain inside your heart and actually dare to face it, it will pass.  It will be released and open up your heart and emotional body to new and more powerful energy…

More on yin and yang: http://reinoblog.wordpress.com/yield-and-overcome/
My book “Yield and Overcome”: http://goo.gl/TXSgw0